How to speak to get others to listen
Posted June 24, 2011on:
The ability to connect with your listener and to communicate clearly, concisely and confidently is consistently ranked the number one key to success by leaders throughout business, politics and the professions.
No matter how sound your reasoning, how compelling your arguments, or how logical your conclusions, if you fail to persuade, motivate, and convince your listener your efforts will be in vain.
And how can you convince your audience – be it an audience of one or one thousand?
By connecting at an emotional level.
In order to connect successfully with other people your voice must be free, compelling, and authentic.
Add Vocal Variety
Depending on the tone of your voice, you can either instantly engage your listener or turn them off entirely. Aim for a voice that has a range of tones. No matter how interesting the information, if your tone is monotonous your listener will tune you out.
Observe Your Listener
There are numerous traps people can unintentionally fall into when speaking. Some people speak too loudly in an effort to make others listen. Others are surprised to learn that they come across as aggressive when making their point. And there are those who mumble, letting the ends of their sentences trail off, forcing the listener to strain to understand what they’re saying. When you speak, observe your listener to determine how you’re being received.
If you’re holding tension anywhere in your body, it will constrict your voice. A tight voice sends out negative messages, regardless of how you’re actually feeling. If you’re concerned about what you have to say, yawn before speaking. Yawning opens your throat, frees your voice and eliminates tense sounds.
Connect with Your Content
If you fail to make an emotional connection with the words you speak you can’t expect your listener to connect with them either. Make a list of powerful words – for example, love, hate, beautiful, everything, nothing, always – and practice saying them with energy and meaning. When you feel a connection to the words you speak, your audience will feel compelled to listen to what you have to say.
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